Independent

Scenario: a 21 year old young lady has had a cat whom she loves for the past 16 years. She has been the primary caregiver within the household for the cat's needs. She does not buy the cat food nor the cat litter, but feeds the cat and changes the litter box occasionally. She ususally has to be told several days in a row to clean the cat box before she will do so, even if the cat has pooped on the floor outside the litter box - and even if it there are numerous cat turds on the floor. When she does clean the cat box she dumps the soiled litter into a garbage bag, picks any stray turds, fills the box back up with fresh litter and takes the trash bag out to the can. Note there are no steps that include actually cleaning the cat box ~ no clorox wipes, no paper towels and cleaning spray, and no vaccumming up the gravel that spans half of the upstairs floor in the house. Also not that there are no episodes of spontaneous scooping of the cat box in between dumping and replacing litter. Most of all note that there is no step included that involves scraping the bottom of the cat box when "cleaning" it to get all the urine that may have stuck to the bottom. Insert here that the cat is old and his urine is, uh, hard to describe - it does not "clump," it gets more like a big spread of thick, pasty, sludge. Because of this, "dumping" the litter box NEVER gets the giant area of sludge out. It HAS to be forceably removed by scraping. The cat tends to pee in the same area of the box every time, so the sludge accummulates into quite a mountain.

If all of the above work is done when cleaning the cat box, any person would be warm by the end - maybe even warm enough that sweat is dripping off their face.

So back to the scenario: 21 year old female is told for 3 days to clean the cat box. On the second day she complains that she cannot do it because there is no cat litter to place back in the box. She does attempt to vaccuum some of the gravel that covers the carpet of the upstairs floor, but after a few moments reports the vaccuum doesn't work and probably needs a new belt because it's not picking up the cat litter. Note she does not offer to go buy cat litter nor belt for vaccuum.

On the third day she is given a new 13 pound container of cat litter to complete the task. She complains that she cannot because she is busy doing homework for college. Note here that it is 6 pm at this point, she has been home all day, there is no evidence that any sort of  projects were attempted over the past 8 hours, and that she most likely slept till 3-4 pm anyway. And the homework she is doing is for an internet class - she has a project due that she cannot figure out, but she also didn't complete the prior assignemnt so cannot evcen access the current assignnment yet, and for 2 evenings tantrums that she can't do it and repeatedly asks parents for help.

The other person living in the household - who buys the cat food and cat litter - cannot tolerate the stench of the cat box, and so cannot even BE upstairs in the home because the smell is so noxious. This person, the parent in this scenario, was looking forward to using the sewing machine to create something with new fun fabric - but the sewing machine is UPSTAIRS.

Insert into this scenario that the 21 year old has asked to take the parent's car on a 3 hour road trip to see her boyfriend at his college this weekend. This female has never driven beyond 15 miles from home by herself. The parent does not want to permit this for many reasons. But the parent also vividly remembers that when she was 18, away at college, her parents allowed her boyfriend to take their car on a 3 hour road trip to see her at college AND stay overnight with their car. She does not disclose this information to the 21 year old.

Were her parents too trusting in those days? Did they spoil her with too much? Did they really trust the boyfriend so much that he took their car overnight 3 hours away? What the hell were they thinking?!

Back to scenario, parent tells her Do not bring up the subject of taking my car until after this whole assignment has been turned in.

And furthermore, I worked all day, now I want to sew but it stinks up there too much, how can you treat your cat that way, I've asked you for 3 days to clean up the turds on the floor, it will only take you away from your homework for a short time and then I can sew, but you can stay downstairs and work on your home work without the stench, it's unacceptable that you behave this way, and ridiculous that you want to take the car 3 hours away, blah, blah, blah, etc.

So she, in typical fashion, storms and stomps to get a garbage bag to "clean" the cat box and shortly after dumping the box, she takes the bag out to the can outside. She then returns to the computer to do her "school work." This is less than a 5 minute process.

So then the confrontation. If I scrape the bottom of the cat's box, what will be there?

She responds, "Maybe some remnants of his pee."

The parent goes upstairs intending to begin sewing project and is hit by a different noxious fume - the 21 year old's disgusting perfume that the parent has repeately told her for YEARS to NOT use around this parent because the smell is dreadful, and the parent is allergic to some ingredient in it. Obviously it was sprayed room to room to cover the smell of the cat box. There is also cat litter gravel from the top of the steps through to the 2 back bedrooms of the house upstairs. Looking into the room of the cat box there is still evidence of cat poop not thoroughly cleaned off of the plastic mat that sits under the entry to the box - the mat is one of the places he chooses to poop occasionally - maybe because his box is too disgusting to poop in?!?!

Parent thinks I can't believe a 21 year old who can't clean a cat box has the audacity to ask if she can take my car on a 3 hour road trip. Not gonna do it.

Parent first examines vaccuum. Parent first sprays some air freshener from Yankee Candle that smells fresh like laundry soap, to cover the icky bad perfume sprayed by the 21 year old to cover the stench of the cat box that parent predicts was not cleaned. Then to the vaccuum autopsy. Turning it on, it is true, it is not picking up anything. To examine the belt, this involves taking the screws off the bottom panel which parent has done frequently. The belt however is intact, with no wear at all. Turning the belt does make a slight squeaking sound, which was easily quieted with some WD-40. To rule out some mysterious belt problem, the bottom plate is reattached and parent intends to use the attachment for the hose to see if the vaccuum will suck up anything that way. This vaccuum model is easily changed from conventional vaccuum to attachment hose for those hard to reach corners - and the parent reaches for the hose to detach it from vaccuum mode to use as the hose - to find that the hose was not even attached on vaccuum mode - hence, that is why it was not sucking up anything. This was perhaps a 20 to 30 minute process that included cleaning the hairs and random threads off the bottom brush roller. (These are long haired people with several long haired pets.) Now with hose attached, ready to vaccuum: the hallway, all 3 upstairs bedrooms, and then the cat box room, which is a roomy storage closet.

Vaccuuming creates the sweat dripping off this parent's face.

The parent then takes the dome lid off the cat box and scrapes through the "fresh" cat litter. There are plenty of areas of urine sludge to scrape up. But most notable is that there is urine sludge on the OUTSIDE of the cat box. The 21 year old must have spread open the garbage bag on the floor, and picked up the cat box, and set it in the bag on it's side, and somehow moved the box into some of the dumped sludge, making it stick to the OUTSIDE of the cat box. The amount of urine sludge on the outside of the cat box was about a half inch thick, about 3-4 inches wide and about 9-10 inches across the side.

Did she not see that she had done this? Did she see it and not care? Either way, is this a person who should be trusted taking another person's vehicle on a 3 hour away trip?

What things would she "not see" on her trip that could cause major problems?

What things might she "see but not care about" that could be drastic?